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What Should the Church Do About Homosexuality?

The Majority
Teens and tweens filled the living room, Bibles in hand. The after school Bible-study had attracted students both churched and unchurched. The format was simple. We opened the Word, read, and I explained.

The passage this week was I Corinthians chapter 6. It wasn't long before we reached verse 9:

"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders..." (NIV)


The question was raised by Kelly. She was a brand new Christian, the only believer in her entire house. Until now, she had been raised on the theology of MTV and FOX. The truth she was now hearing from God's Word didn't mesh. I responded, knowing her objection.

"Are you wondering about the reference to homosexuals?"

"Yeah!" she said, almost disgusted. "Why does it say that it's wrong? It's not wrong."

"Well..." I began to answer, but Kelly wasn't done.

"They can't help it, you know!"

Kelly's not alone. For the first time in America's history, Kelly is in the majority. In May 2010, Gallup reported:

"Americans' support for the moral acceptability of gay and lesbian relations crossed the symbolic 50% threshold in 2010. At the same time, the percentage calling these relations "morally wrong" dropped to 43%, the lowest in Gallup's decade-long trend." (Saad)

Media Over Time Is It Everywhere?
Just a casual stroll through today's primetime TV shows, or even a brief excursion into today's top music, might lead you to think that homosexuality is everywhere. Entire TV shows center their plots on homosexual characters, and music videos seem to demand a girl-on-girl scene somewhere in the mix.

So, is media what's behind homosexuality's prevalence? It certainly has influence.

Young people today are saturating themselves in media. Kaiser's report earlier this year revealed that 8 to 18-year-olds average 7 hours and 38 minutes a day absorbing entertainment media, 10 hours and 45 minutes if you include multitasking-i.e. listening to music while browsing the internet (Rideout). But how much of this media presents homosexuality as a normal and healthy lifestyle choice?

Support for the homosexual lifestyle really shouldn't be surprising to anyone in America who owns a TV. Almost every sitcom and teen show has central gay characters. In recent years, the most popular shows our young people watch not only have homosexual leads, but pro-LGBT (an acronym referring collectively to lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people) storylines. American Idol brought on Ellen DeGeneres, often making light of her sexuality. Fox's hit program Glee, strongly supported by the LGBT community and featuring the talent of several homosexual actors, regularly deals with the subject of same sex relationships. Kurt, a sympathetic lead character on Glee constantly battles the struggles of ‘coming out' as he tries to just ‘be himself.'

Film is no different. From Brokeback Mountain to preachy cartoons like Happy Feet, today's generation is hearing the message loud and clear-homosexuals are born this way, and there is nothing wrong with a LGBT lifestyle.

Of course, there are also a number of highly-motivated pro-homosexual organizations who work to keep their cause at the forefront of people's attention. For example, GLAAD (Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) held their annual "Media Awards" show in April, and Glee, picked up a prize for "best comedy" because of the show's positive and prolific use of homosexual characters and storylines. At the same event, Drew Barrymore and Wanda Sykes also received awards and were outspoken concerning their support of the gay community and overall homosexual agenda.

It seems Hollywood has spoken. And the majority is now listening.

But don't think for a second that homosexuality is limited to the famed icons and outlets in our media. At a recent college fair hosted at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center in Greenwich Village, homosexual students were specifically targeted for school enrollment. Scott A. McIntyre, associate director of admissions at The University of Indiana said, "The more I can help my institution be open to diversity of all different kinds, it's just going to make us a stronger university, and it's going to make our student body be more robust."

And everyone is aware of the ongoing firestorm homosexuality has caused in the US military, with even more heat coming in the wake of the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy. In fact, the fight over homosexuality's acceptableness in the military may be even more vicious these days, almost 20 years after the controversial bill was signed into law by former President Clinton. According to a poll conducted by The Washington Post and ABC News, a vast majority of American civilians are supportive of gays in the armed forces (Huffington Post), but that sentiment is not shared by all the uniformed men and women currently serving in the military.

It seems that every organization from Congress to the Boy Scouts has had to deal with the issue of homosexuality amongst its members. And with 52% of the American population now claiming homosexuality "morally acceptable" in the latest Gallup Poll on values and beliefs (mentioned above), it's little wonder that some think roughly 10% of the American population is gay. But there are good reasons to believe this figure is exaggerated and biased; The Center for Disease Control estimates the percentage of homosexuals in America at only 4% of the total population of those 13 and older (CDC Fact Sheet). That differential translates into millions fewer homosexuals than previously thought.

Regardless of the actual number of homosexuals in America (or the world for that matter), the gay community's presence is felt in just about every sector of life, both personal and public.

For some, this ubiquitous "coming out" is celebrated. For others, this creates tension.

Homosexuality has always been one of the greatest debates in political, theological, and moral discussions; it's possible that the conversation – or more accurately, the argument – rages even hotter today than it has in the last few decades.

So how is the church to respond to this mainstream teaching?

A Bad History
Unfortunately this is a very delicate issue, and believers have to tread carefully because the church's past response to the LGBT community has been not only callous, but unbiblical.

In the 20th century, the church's response could probably be summarized with this one word: judgmental. People bearing the title "Christians" acted like anything but the Christ they supposedly represent. These "Christians" would single out homosexuals, condemning them, quoting passages like this one:

"But we know that the Law is good, if one uses it lawfully, realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching." (I Timothy 1:8-10, NASB95)

The hypocrisy of this situation is glaring. If one of these Christians lived in a cul-de-sac with only eight houses, and a homosexual moved onto the street, the result was often public condemnation. Forget the fact that two unmarried couples lived on the street, and a whole neighborhood full of liars.

This happened even more so in the church, all under the guise of "rebuking."

What does this look like today in the 21st Century? Perhaps it would look like this:

This past Tuesday morning, a young man knowingly cheated a clerk out of some change. A few hours later he lied to his co-workers about his recent low performance. As the workday came to a close, he joined a few others in the coffee room, laughing and joking about an overweight co-worker in accounting. After dinner, this same young man spent hours browsing online pornography.

Cheating, lying, gossiping and lusting. Not bad for a day's work.

But his church will still treat him better than a homosexual.

In Thursday's men's accountability group, this same young man confessed everything. The group leader thanked him for his transparency. Many of the other guys in the group shared similar transgressions, then they prayed and ate breakfast together.

On Friday a different young man at the same church confesses his "same-sex tendencies." The pastors call a special meeting. What do we do with him?

A Polarized Response
In the last decade the church has become aware of this negative stigma it bears. Many have cried out for a needed change.

Sadly, many people in the church have made a shift towards political correctness. Embarrassed by their history of condemning gays, they have changed their theology instead of their methodology. "Sorry everyone. My bad! Gay is now okay."

Now churches across America are not only accepting of the LGBT lifestyle, they are condoning it, commissioning Gay and Lesbian pastors and leaders. "After all, homosexuals are born that way." Homosexuality is no longer limited to "the world;" it's become part of the church. Most Christians can recall the 2003 election of Gene Robinson, an openly gay minister, to the office of Bishop in the Episcopal Church. In May of 2010, they did it again with Rev. Canon Mary Glasspool.

Many believers are troubled by this kind of thinking. Compassion for those struggling with homosexuality is one thing, but legitimizing it is crossing the line.

Of course, every evangelical woefully remembers the sinful capitulation of pastor and author Ted Haggard, who publically decried homosexuality, and was then caught in a drug-laden homosexual affair with a male prostitute in Colorado. This terrible event served as one of the most damaging and hypocritical moments in the history of the American Church, as Haggard was not only removed from the pastorate of New Life Church in Colorado Springs, but also from the presidency of The National Association of Evangelicals.

The issue was confused even further for people watching in the sidelines as former Contemporary Christian Music icon Jennifer Knapp announced that she was gay. After a long hiatus from music, she's back, and in a somewhat long, but very revealing interview with Christianity Today, she answers some difficult questions about her lifestyle and faith.

When asked what the Bible has to say about homosexuality, she replies, "The Bible has literally saved my life. I find myself between a rock and a hard place...." Later, she confesses that she's "not capable of fully debating that well" when asked whether homosexual "acts" or "feelings" are sinful...or both. (Moring)

In many ways, Jennifer Knapp is paradoxical. She confesses she doesn't understand the full implications of her decisions, but also sees no need to postpone said practice until she does understand. In other words, I'm OK with it, so it's OK. Right?

It seems as if now the church doesn't know where to stand.

The web of homosexuality is a quite a tangled one. Given that so many homosexuals are confused with the issue themselves, it's little wonder that the church is also confused concerning its response. But with homosexuality's strong foothold in political, social, and faith-based sectors, the church no longer has the luxury of ignoring the issue. The church must deal with it.

But how?

"It Is What It Is"
I have a special distaste for the phrase "it is what it is," because so often, it's used as a cop out or spineless acceptance of something that shouldn't be. It's sad when people in ministry use this phrase to excuse themselves from taking action on an important matter. That's why I was so glad to see the phrase officially banned in 2008.

But when it comes to homosexuality, too many in the church want to throw up their hands and exclaim, "It is what it is." The ironic thing is, they don't actually know what it is!

Before I share what homosexuality "is" I need to give you two disclaimers: First, I will limit my reasoning to the issue of homosexuality only, as opposed to the closely-related (and politically-charged) topic of same-sex marriage. Secondly, I'm writing to fellow leaders in the church; I'm only trying to convince fellow faith leaders – not the world – of homosexuality's reality.

With that said, we can now call homosexuality what it is: a sexual relationship between people of the same gender – whom Jesus loves unconditionally – that's conscious and sinful and undermines God's purpose for creation and expression of love.

Five Fallacies
The best way to explain that conclusion is to dispel some of the most frequently repeated (and routinely believed) false claims about homosexuality. What follows is not an exhaustive list, but one that addresses the most-discussed claims of homosexuality in relationship to faith and life.

1. The Bible doesn't clearly address the issue of homosexuality.
On the surface, this seems to be a strange argument; after all, almost every major translation of the Bible has the word "homosexual" (or variations such as "homosexuals" and/or "homosexuality") in it. While the Bible's mention of homosexuality seems completely straightforward, many argue that when the Bible uses the word "homosexual" it really means something else, though that's never the case in any other issue addressed in the Bible.

So, what is this "something else" that the Bible supposedly means when it uses the word "homosexual?"

Some argue that when the Apostle Paul discusses homosexuality in 1 Corinthians 6:9 or 1 Timothy 1:10, what he was really denouncing was pederasty, the sexual abuse of boys by men, which was sometimes practiced by Roman and Greek citizens.

I have just one question: Then why didn't Paul just say that? You see, the Apostle Paul was a man of profound specifics, who at times would even "invent" words to get his point across, like the concept of "justification" (Romans 4 and 5). Am I to believe that he simply began to use terms that were generic or vague or even wrong when talking about such important issues?

If Paul wanted to address adult-to-child sin, he would have done that. The reason he didn't speak of pederasty was because he was referring to homosexuality! And the reason he was referring to homosexuality was so he could be congruent with the Old Testament on the same subject.

The famous (or infamous) "clobber verse" of Leviticus 18:22 states, "Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable." This verse says "man," not "child." The Jewish law was clear; homosexuality – same-gender sex acts between two consenting people – was forbidden.

Just one other quick example should settle any remaining doubt. When the two angels of God (who were also referred to as "men" in Genesis 18) walked into the condemned towns of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19, it was the "men of the city" who approached Lot and demanded he turn over the angelic visitors for sexual purposes. This is yet another reference of adult-to-adult homosexuality found in the Bible.

Regardless of wishful thinking by some, both testaments in the Bible mention the existence of homosexuality, the sexual acts between adults of the same gender. It's as clear as crystal.

2. The Bible does not condemn homosexuality as sin.
Understandably, this is a very convenient follow-up to the first myth of homosexuality's relationship to the Bible, for if the Bible doesn't even mention homosexuality, then it certainly can't denounce it. We've seen that first claim to be false, now let's look at this one.

Starting with the passage of Leviticus 18, we see in verse 6 that God bans sex between close relatives, including mothers (v7), sisters or half-sisters (v9), granddaughters (v10), and even aunts (v14). In the same chapter, God goes on to forbid a person from having sex with a neighbor's wife (v20) and with animals (v23).

Located right in the midst of these prohibitions about sex is the command, "Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable" (Leviticus 18:22).

The overarching context of this entire chapter couldn't be any more obvious: "Don't do these things!"
No rational person among us today argues that sex with a child or with an animal or with a close relative is a healthy practice. So, then why is it that some lift the act of homosexuality out of the list and treat it independently, as though it were permissible by God? This may be one of the most heinous assaults to the notion of biblical context in the history of theological interpretation!

But let's be honest-some of these Leviticus passages can be confusing. After all, even though this passage above seems to be clear about things morally unacceptable, if we turn a few pages we'll find instructions about not planting two types of seeds or wearing two types of cloth (Lev. 19:19). These arguments are abundant all over the internet. One of the most powerful scenes is from the Emmy award winning show West Wing where President Bartlet (played by Martin Sheen) uses this kind of bad scripture interpretation to humiliate a (and I quote) "tight ass" Christian who refers to homosexuality as an abomination. The Christian was silent. Apparently both her and Bartlet didn't know the scriptures.

In order to defend these sort of onslaughts, it would help if we understood the difference between moral and ceremonial law. Moral law is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. Ceremonial law was for a given people at a given time. When God told his people to not sleep with animals or kids or people of the same gender, he was obviously talking to them about moral code. When he talked to them about crops and clothing, he was talking about a ceremonial principle of uniting two things together that don't belong together. This was more of a teaching tool.

Ceremonial laws change. We saw an example of this when God spoke to Peter in Acts Chapter 11 and told him he could eat reptiles, birds and other "unclean" animals. Peter was resistant at first. But God said, "Kill and eat." (Oh well, we just lost all the PETA Christians!)

Moral law, however, is unchanging. If you are ever confused about which of these laws are moral law, take a peek at which laws are repeated in the New Testament. You'll find that the New Testament continues to teach against sexual sin, including both fornication and homosexuality.

In the New Testament, we see that Paul's mention of homosexuality also occurs in rather definitive situations. For example, in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, we read:

"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." (NIV)

In this passage, Paul is unmistakably condemning certain lifestyles, with homosexuality being one of them – right along with "the greedy" and "drunkards" – lest we think that one sinful lifestyle is worse (or better) than another. These practices were something Christians shouldn't be doing. Robert Hughes makes that point clear in his NT Commentary.

"Paul gave a list of vices that were apparently evident in the Corinthian church (6:8-11). These vices are in sharp contrast to the life of true believers. The term ‘washed' (6:11) was a reference to the ‘new life' (Titus 3:5)" (page 551, Hughes and Laney)

While some may want to see this passage as just another "clobber verse," it is best viewed as a passage of supreme hope! Instead of remaining in their sin, the Corinthians were "washed," "sanctified," and "justified in the Name of Jesus and by the power of God's Spirit!" That's because God loves idolaters, adulterers, drunkards, thieves, slanderers, swindlers, and yes, homosexuals!

In Paul's other reference to homosexuality, in 1 Timothy 1:10, he says:

"The law was not intended for people who do what is right. It is for people who are lawless and rebellious, who are ungodly and sinful, who consider nothing sacred and defile what is holy, who kill their father or mother or commit other murders. The law is for people who are sexually immoral, or who practice homosexuality, or are slave traders, liars, promise breakers, or who do anything else that contradicts the wholesome teaching that comes from the glorious Good News entrusted to me by our blessed God." (NLT)

Here Paul lists those who "practice homosexuality" among the "lawless and rebellious." It is point blank doctrine: homosexuality is a lifestyle that's contradictory to the Gospel. But, look what else Paul is doing. He's also clearly saying that God has reached out to the "lawless and rebellious" with His perfect law. Rather than condemn them, God desires to redeem them!

That blaring truth cannot escape the church if it's to reach homosexuals – or any other sinner – today.

Let's not be confused on this issue any longer. In seminary, we are trained to "plainly teach what the Bible plainly teaches." It's a pretty good practice! With regards to homosexuality, it's much easier to just believe what the Bible clearly says than to concoct a false justification of homosexuality's acceptableness. It requires a lot of imagination (that I can't muster) to think God finds homosexuality to be an acceptable and alternative lifestyle for His creation. Politically correct? Yes. True? No.

3. Homosexuality doesn't harm anyone.
Well, not exactly. First, homosexuality can't promote procreation. Simply put, if homosexuality were to be embraced by all people, then the logical extrapolation is that humanity would cease to exist, for children cannot be conceived through homosexual acts. This argument alone easily shows the potential harm caused by homosexuality. But there's more.

Homosexuality cannot provide the same stability and nurture for children that a traditional family can. Now, in no way would I ever call into question the love two gay men have for a child, but in spite of their care, there are still qualities and resources that will simply be absent from their parenting tool kit. For instance, while a father may teach a child how to hold a baseball bat, a mother may teach a child how to hold a hand. Let's face it; as controversial as it may sound, there are gender-specific roles placed on men and women. With all due respect to both genders, men and women are built differently physically and emotionally. In the majority of cases, men are stronger physically. Similarly, women are usually stronger in the area of nurturing. The combination is a perfect fit. It's almost as if God knew what he was doing when he made Adam and Eve.

Let's not ignore some of the more graphic dangers of homosexuality. The movie Brokeback Mountain was claimed to be a wonderful love story between two men. In that movie we saw a sex scene between the two lead males where sodomy was implied. Most health care professionals and doctors warn against the potential unwanted effects of anal sex, which is a staple of male homosexuals' sex lives. And even if the highly debated theory of "shortened life span" – which proposes that gay people live shorter lives than do their heterosexual counterparts – is dropped because of all the differing research on the topic, it's still a known fact that the homosexual community continues to reel from the lethal effects of the HIV/AIDS virus.

Dare I mention a spiritual danger? All throughout the New Testament we see a very dangerous sin penetrating the hearts of the people: pride. On a macro level, pride is what tells us we don't need God, we can do it ourselves. Very dangerous. But on a micro level, pride creeps in and tells us that we should preach ourselves, not Christ. Pride tells us that our "human" identity and accomplishments are important.

Paul made it clear in numerous passages that our self esteem should be based on who we are in Christ as a new creation (II Cor 5:17). He even goes as far as to say, "We don't preach ourselves, we preach Christ the Lord." (II Cor 4:5, NIV)

One of the huge problems with the LGBT movement is the focus on "me." Their whole identity is wrapped up with being "gay." Rarely do you meet a homosexual who identifies themselves as a "follower of Christ." "I'm Michael, I'm gay, and I'm proud of it."

If only they had that zeal for Christ.

Imagine if I introduced myself as Jonathan, the heterosexual!

This is spiritually unhealthy, however you try to frame it.

For these reasons alone, it's inaccurate to claim homosexuality doesn't harm anyone. (But anyone familiar with sin knows the negative effects it can have on sinners and those in relationship with them. Sin is no respecter of persons.)

4. Some people are born gay, and thus, they have no choice.
There are a number of problems with this claim, beginning with the fact that, to date, it's absolutely unproven. It's one thing for an unchurched person to cite this belief, but it's especially disconcerting to hear a Christian make this claim because of all the intrinsic problems that accompany this stance.

Genetics-driven homosexuality creates quite a theological problem for those who wish to wed biblical values with a gay lifestyle. If God considers homosexuality a sin – and we've already seen that He does based on scriptural observations outlined earlier – then why would He intentionally create a person to be in opposition to His will? That hardly sounds loving, and the God of the Bible is defined as love (1 John 4:8).

But the most disturbing point about this argument is the double standard it creates as a by-product. Let's just say for a moment that homosexuality is caused by certain genes, or is somehow inflicted upon people through nature. Why are we so willing to label homosexuality as "alternative" but not other lifestyles that claim to be based on biology or heredity?

It's ridiculous!

Bob may claim to be born an alcoholic because his father and grandfather were both alcoholics, but Bob's friends – if they truly love him – are still going to help him fight that weakness. Nobody in their right mind will say to Bob, "Oh, since you were born that way, I guess we just have to let you continue destroying yourself and your family through your ‘alternative' lifestyle."

Sandra would love to blame her cruel temper on her mom...or on the pressures of life...or even the abuse she received from her step-father as a child, but again, no one who loves Sandra will allow her to continue down a road paved with broken relationships and regret. Instead of labeling her temper as "acceptable," those who love Sandra will challenge her to overcome her anger.

And just to be fair, let's talk about Lance. Lance has a big sex drive...I mean a big sex drive! To satisfy it, he has a different girl every spite of the commitment he made to his wife and friends and God at his wedding 9 years ago. Lance justifies his urges by pointing to his masculinity, his "need," and his embedded desires. So he cheats.

Tell me: are you willing to dismiss his sin by labeling it "alternative"? I can't imagine saying, "Hey, Lance. Don't worry about the rejection you're causing your wife, or the example you're setting for your kids. What you're doing is fine, because, well, you were born that way."

The point has been made. All the other hang-ups in life people say they're born with are still not labeled "acceptable." So, why do we single out homosexuality in this way?

5. Homosexuality is natural and normal.
It's a bit comical to me when I hear this "scientific" argument coming from the homosexual community, mainly because the words "natural" and "normal" are used in ways the scientific community never intended. For instance, advocates for the acceptance of the gay lifestyle point to the incidental occurrences of homosexual activity within the animal kingdom and label it "normal." Homosexual activity within animals isn't considered any more "normal" by scientists than rare asexual activity which can also occur within certain animal species. A fractional percentage of anything hardly constitutes "normal."

And besides, just because an animal does it, doesn't make it OK for me. After all, my dog eats his own poop.

On the discussion of "natural" – which tends to be a more religious term than a scientific one – it's important to note that when the Bible speaks of "natural" it may very well be describing the negative/sinful aspects of people's lives. For instance, Jude 1:19 contrasts those who act on their "natural instincts" with those who "have God's Spirit."

That being said, Romans 1:26-27 actually uses the words "natural" and "unnatural" to describe sexual acts that please God and displease God, respectively:

"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion." (NIV)

Paul makes it clear that homosexual activity was unnatural and outside of God's perfect plan. Those of us who suppress the truth often convince ourselves that these kind of activities are okay. J. Vernon McGee comments about this reality in his Thru the Bible Commentary.

These are passions of dishonor and disgrace and depravity -- regardless of what public opinion is today. Perversion entered into Greek life, and it brought Greece down to the dust. Go over there and look at Greece today. The glory has passed away.

Anybody who tells me that he can be a child of God and live in perversion, live in the thick mire of our contemporary permissiveness, is not kidding anyone but himself. If he will come to Christ, he can have deliverance.

When we try to do things our own way, perverting his creating, we are turning away from God and giving into a life of sin. J.B. Green talks about this human condition in his article, The Death of Christ, in The Dictionary of Paul and His Letters.

"Of special interest in this brief review of Paul's anthropology is Romans 1:18-32. Here sin (in the broad sense: the language Paul uses in 1:18 is ungodliness and unrighteousness) is identified not with individual acts of wickedness but with a general disposition to refuse to honor God as God and to render him thanks, so substitute things created for the Creator-that is, to run away from authentic human existence by turning away from God." (pg. 207, Green)

Homosexual acts are just expressions of sin, expressions of turning away from God.

Regardless of the appeal made by advocates of homosexuality, whether to the realm of science or to the realm of theology, same-gender sex can't be defined as natural or normal. In fact, homosexuality is a reversal of the created order.

The Church's Response: Loathing or Loving?
As difficult as the church's task is in properly defining homosexuality, it still has the most daunting task ahead of it: actually responding to homosexuality. (All that stuff above was the easy part!)

While some might argue there are many possible ways the church can react to homosexuals, all ideas essentially boil down to three different responses.

We can act like Pharisees, condemning the act of homosexuality, and the homosexual, as well. In biblical times, Pharisees were religious men who zealously proclaimed and enforced the law given to Moses by God. Almost everything they did, from how they dressed to how they prayed, showed others their concern for God's decrees. Unfortunately, their private lifestyles often clashed with their public proclamations, and Jesus reserved His strongest indictments for this impious religiosity (Matthew 23).

A perfect example of their tendencies can be found in their dealings with a woman caught in the sexual sin of adultery (John 8:1-11). As the story goes, some Pharisees brought to Jesus a woman who had been caught in the very act of adultery. They espoused the Law which called for her death (by stoning), but were interested in what Jesus had to say. Of course, they weren't even honest about their motives; they were only using this woman to try and trap Jesus.

A good day for the Pharisees would have ended with a stoning; a better day would have had killing the woman, and the second killing Jesus.

They got neither.

Reacting like a Pharisee may be the easiest and most natural of the three options. We see it all the time, and if we're honest, sometimes do it ourselves. One of the clearest examples of this tendency is the hateful group known as the Westboro Baptist Church (unaffiliated with any mainline Baptist denomination) who regularly and despitefully campaign against homosexuals. Their message is usually so vile towards homosexuals it's not even worth repeating.

But if we're not careful, we'll repeat their mistake. People in the church, from the pastor to the pew sitter, can easily look down a self-righteous nose and damn the sinner right along with the sin, forgetting that they were once living in sin themselves – or worse, still living in sin!

In the research for his book unChristian, David Kinnaman found that the church has a reputation among unbelievers for being "anti-gay." No, not "anti-lust" or "anti-fornication" or "anti-immoral." Just "anti-gay." All of these are examples of sexual sin, but only one carries the full force of the church's vengeance.

This doesn't help the church's reputation with the homosexual community. Kinnaman says it well. "Many people in the gay community don't seem to have issues with Jesus, but rather with those claiming to represent him today." (91, Kinnaman)

To be sure, the church should condemn all sin – while also avoiding all sin! – but we must make sure to steer clear of empty self-righteousness.

Thus, we can't respond to homosexuals like a Pharisee would.

We can also respond like a Chameleon, changing our doctrine and theology to "blend in" with the world around us. Instead of calling homosexuality "sin," we could just back down and label homosexuality something nicer like "alternative" or "misunderstood" or "innate."

Like the Episcopal church mentioned earlier, there are several denominations in America that are sliding toward this mistake. Most of them aren't content with simply redefining homosexuality as "acceptable," but are also intent on ordaining homosexual pastors and priests to lead the church, as well.

But if the church does either, it ceases to function biblically. God's intention for the church has always been that it would be a particular people, so particular in fact, that they would appear to be "called out" from among the rest of humanity (which is the literal definition of the Greek word ecclesia, translated as "church" in the New Testament).

Imagine how the story from John 8 (about the adulterous woman) would sound if Jesus acted like a chameleon.

Pharisees: "Hey Jesus, some of our guys found this woman having sex with a man who wasn't her husband. Mosaic Law considers this a sin deserving of death. What do you have to say?"

Jesus: "Yeah, about that. Let's not get caught up on rules, or right and wrong. Besides, that law is centuries old, anyhow; it need not apply anymore. Who are we to think our labels or standards are best? The main thing is that this woman feels good about herself. To each, his own, you know? It is what it is!"

If Jesus had meant for His church to behave like a chameleon, maybe He would have acted like a Chameleon. But He didn't, so we mustn't, either.

The only godly reaction we can have toward homosexuality, or any sin for that matter, is to respond like Christ. Responding like Christ always means calling sin, sin, while loving the sinner caught in it.

Granted, we don't have a known encounter between Jesus and a homosexual recorded in Scripture, but again, the story of the adulterous woman helps us understand Jesus' practice. (Hey, sexual sin is sexual sin.) So in case you don't know how the story in John 8 ends, let me tell you.

After Jesus shamed the Pharisees into dismissing themselves, He turned to the woman and asked, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" Her response is simple: "No one, sir."

His final words were life-changing and life-saving: "Then neither do I condemn you. Go now and leave your life of sin." (NIV)

What a brilliant and loving response to someone caught red-handed in sexual sin! He calls sin what it is, but then invites her to live a wholly different life.


Following Christ's Example What a flawless standard Christ has put before us. For those courageous enough to respond to homosexuals as Christ would, a few points need to be kept in mind:

  1. Know what the Bible says...and what the Bible means. The only thing that's worse than a well-intentioned Christian who's marring the true biblical message is an ill-intentioned Christian who's marring the true biblical message. Don't be either! Know what the Bible has to say about homosexuality...and what the Bible doesn't have to say about it. Pay very careful attention to what the actual verse says, as well as the greater context of the entire passage (and for that matter, the whole book). Otherwise, you might fall victim to someone who uses a dizzying – but distorted – interpretation of the Bible. (West Wing's President Bartlet perhaps?)

  2. Be conscious of the church's current reputation for dealing with homosexuals. We have a really bad reputation, but in most cases, we've earned it. I'm not saying we should walk on eggshells, beat around the bush, or cower away from calling sin, "sin." But just know, we are walking through a mind field; one irresponsible step, or comment, and everything can blow up in our face.

  3. Make sure you denounce all sin, not just homosexuality. The quickest way to forfeit your credibility and influence is to treat certain sins with partiality and some with absolute scorn. God is as broken up over the heterosexual mom who continually gossips at the end of the cul-de-sac, as He is the entrenched homosexual. A gay person is no more distant from God than a liar or a porn addict or a thief. Sin is sin and sinners are sinners. And by the way, it should probably be said that heterosexual sin has caused far more damage to the church than homosexual sin ever has!

  4. Pray for homosexuals you know...and show them the loving kindness of Jesus Christ. How do you view homosexuals? No, really. Do you see them and begin to organize a mental argument? Are they less of a human in your eyes because of their lifestyle? Does God really hate them? Or, does He love them unconditionally, just like you? Has He given the life of His Son for them, as well? Of course God loves homosexuals! Our God-given mission is to share the love of Jesus with everybody: drug dealers, terrorists, homosexuals, and people with really rude kids. So, pray that God will use you to reach a homosexual in your life. As you pray that prayer, carefully look for ways God can use you to reach them. Their sin is no more daunting than yours or mine. Let's offer them the love they are searching for in life.
In the last decade, homosexuals have been "coming out of the closet" in droves. As followers of Christ, we have two options: we can show them the door, or we can show them the life-transforming love of Jesus.

Let's make sure we get this one right.

Green, J.B. "Death of Christ." Dictionary of Paul and His Letter. Illinois: Inter-Varsity Press, 1993.

Hughes, Robert B. and J. Carl Laney. Tyndale Concise Bible Commentary. Illinois: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 1990.

Kinnaman, David. Unchristian. Michigan: Baker Books, 2007

Lockman Foundation, The. New American Standard Bible. 1963.

McGee, J. Vernon. Thru the Bible Commentary- WORDSEARCH Database. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, Inc. 1983

Tyndale. Holy Bible, New Living Translation. Illinois: Tyndale House Publisher, Inc., 1996.

Zondervan. Holy Bible, New International Version. Michigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1973.

Jonathan McKee Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices, If I Had a Parenting Do Over, 52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed Kid; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He has over 20 years youth ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers and parents on his websites, and You can follow Jonathan on his blog, getting a regular dose of youth culture and parenting help. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

David R. Smith David R. Smith is a 15-year youth ministry veteran who helps youth workers and parents through his writing, training, and speaking. David specializes in sharing the gospel, and equipping others do the same. He co-authored his first book this year, Ministry By Teenagers. David provides free resources to anyone who works with teenagers on his website, David resides with his wife and son in Tampa, Florida.

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Comments on this post

   Chad         5/5/2015 4:14:13 PM

I found this article to be a great tool to be shared with youth leaders and even the church as a whole. The issues of Same-Sex attraction and trans-gender have been coming at me for the past 3 weeks and I have appreciated the resources found here that can give a good solid biblical foundation for the stance we take. I realize that it is not popular but nor was Jesus. These are difficult topics that need to be talked about, not to determine new theology but to understand why we believe what we believe which I thank David Smith and Jonathan McKee for, great job guys!

   David         9/4/2013 5:28:20 PM

very balanced and well written resource

   Em         5/15/2012 7:23:05 PM

We are all born in sin, we are all born separated from God, we all need to repent of sin, we all need the blood of Jesus to wash away our sin. I agree as Christians we need to be more active in our service to homosexuals, we don't need to fear them or their political agenda. We need to pull down the demonic spirit that is deceiving them and see them come into the salvation of Jesus

   Miriam Nance         3/24/2012 7:18:31 PM

thank you, the whole truth heals, I was a victim of being judged for my promiscuous lifestyle & I was tired of it I turned to the church who said come as you are but when I got there my appearance was not accepted. I wanted Jesus so bad i did what it took for the people to accept me. but instead of true deliverance from fornication. I often failed though my outward appearance was now accepted. I became phariseeticle but through private prayer's of Lord pls deliver me tell me the truth ... but i just couldn't seem to move forward in the things of God. One day as an in ministerial class an anointed instructor began to describe the church in his face I saw God who said, I don't care if she walks in here with nothing on but a handkerchief you get her in here .... it was at that moment i heard the Lord say I have always love you but in the backdrop of my faith I didn't believe he loved me because i had to clean up to be accepted by the Lord but the Church has pushed many away with trying to be God with their fears instead of the true knowledge of his character. Yes he died for me while I was yet in my sin and for that I can love other fornicator's be it heterosexuals or homo's thank you

   mark vanburen         6/29/2011 7:34:33 AM

Great article. Glad you didn't shy away from preaching the hard stuff.

   Molly         6/28/2011 11:14:51 AM

I appreciate this article and that you seek to deal with this issue with love and grace. But I agree with Jude on a lot of the arguments that you posed and how inaccurate they are. As a social worker, some of the arguments you made about homosexual sex and AIDS/HIV are inaccurate, as Jude pointed out. Also porcreation would not be an issue with the science and technology we have in the medical field. There are many women who can't get pregnant on their own yet tehy still have babies. As far as the word "homosexual" and translastion, I don't know enough about it to argue that point. I do want to commend you for a taking a stance that is love and compassion and not just "gay bashing" and I hope it's ok for us to agree to disagree. And for those who read this article I hope they look further into it and not just take one resource into account.

   dan manns         6/28/2011 8:14:43 AM

thanks Jon and David, I live in NY state where same sex marriage was just signed into law as 'legal' by our state legislature. The topic is especially relevent to me and I appreciate your biblical response. Any tool or reference that better equips youth leaders to strengthen, lead and guide students to the truth is very valuable to me! thanks guys!

   Cherie         6/26/2011 4:36:53 PM

Great article! I think that many Christians who make a stand on this issue feel as if they are not PC. Our children think we are being old fashioned or just closed minded because of the way the media has made just about anything in the world "OK" I am waiting for a show that has a KIND nice child molester! It is also sad that in this fast pace world we have allowed the media to shape our childrens view of right and wrong!

   Jonathan McKee         6/17/2011 11:04:06 AM

Jude, your post is waaaaaaaaaay too long to address every issues, so I'll just touch on the first thing you said, and that is your interpretation of the word that Paul used for homosexual. You, and many others who really want to believe that homosexual behavior is okay, contend that Paul was referring to pederasty (which is male abuse/child molestation). Paul was actually using the common language in the 1st Century for homosexual relationships. There's nothing else to be said on the matter. It's that simple. He didn't say "pederasty" because he didn't mean male abuse and molestation. He meant homosexual behavior. Anyone with any knowledge of the language of the time knows that as a fact. I'm sorry you're blind to that. It's sad that the world considers this truth as "gay bashing." Yes, there are plenty of people out there "gay bashing." It's terrible. But what Paul is talking about here is homosexual behavior. Homosexual behavior is what Paul is saying to avoid, just like we should avoid lying, cheating, etc. (You say, "Christians spend so much effort and time with this topic compared to other topics such as cheating, lying..." Well... June isn't lying and cheating month, is it? Today's Christians are being backed into a corner. It's hard to stand for what we think is truth without being portrayed as a gay basher.) So let me be clear. Paul is NOT talking about inclination. He's talking about behavior. The New Testament always talks about homosexual behavior. I'm sorry that so many believers have made a mess out of this issue, bashing "inclination" and throwing this whole issue out of proportion. Followers of Christ should love the liars, the cheaters, the prostitutes, the gossips and the gays. At the same time, we aren't going to justify the behaviors.

   jude hirman         6/10/2011 9:07:17 PM

1. The word ‘homosexual’ came into existence 100 years ago, so the error lies in the translation. Paul DID say just that (male abuse/child molestation), but those who began mistranslating the bible ended up using gay people as a scapegoat. 2. Please read “what the bible really says about homosexuality,” it might enlighten you on the subject. 3. Your argument regarding procreation is absolutely flawed. Making homosexuality socially acceptable does not equal to everyone becoming gay. If that is what you truly believe then it is likely that you yourself are questioning yourself and perhaps social pressures are the only reason you are not living as a gay man. Gay people can’t procreate the way that straight people can, however, they still want families and many many gay couples look to adopt children who are desperately seeking a loving home. In the words of Tina Fey “gay people are just as good at watching their kids play hockey (or whatever activity) as straight parents.” Furthermore, HIV/Aids is MOST common amongst straight people, yes there is a higher percentage of the virus amongst young gay men, that is not because they are gay, that is because they don’t practice safe sex. Perhaps we should turn our focus to more sexual health education to decrease the numbers? There is also a much MUCH lower percentage of lesbians with HIV/Aids, so again this argument is not sound. (Sidenote: Straight people also have anal sex.) 4. Born gay or not, what IS a fact is that it is an inherent aspect of someone’s personality and live and thus cannot be changed. There is a less than 1 percent success rate for gay people undergoing therapy to change this for them. 5. This is your opinion and only that. You can’t know what feels natural for someone else, the same way I can’t know what feels natural to you. One thing I do agree with is this: “It’s ridiculous!” I think the reason Christians spend so much effort and time with this topic compared to other topics such as cheating, lying, etc is because they realize that it really isn’t something that can be changed about someone, whereas lying and cheating are behavioral which can be altered. For anyone that is interested in this topic more should really read “What the Bible Really says about Homosexuality?” I have hope for the people that read your website and your uneducated/misinformed opinion; my hope is that they do a little bit or research and don’t only absorb what you say because its poison to the heart and mind. I pray that God opens your eyes and heart. “Test everything that is said. Hold on to what is good” 1 Thessalonians 5:21

   Gary         5/27/2011 7:33:18 AM

I found this article to be very well presented and have a great deal of grace.

   Navid Ebrahimzadeh         4/14/2011 2:27:51 AM

I admire you for attempting to be logical in regards to this topic, but you are still being ignorant and hateful. But it's okay, because you're going to have wasted your entire life believing in a god that doesn't exist.

   Julie         4/4/2011 6:44:53 PM

Thank you for such a well spoken article on such a hard issue. I have been working with youth for just under 2 years now and it seems sexual sin of all kinds is one of the biggest struggles. Keep up the great work and God Bless!

   Jim Yates         2/25/2011 8:09:08 AM

Wow! Thank you, Jonathan and David, for this exhaustive article and indepth look into this destructive behavior (isn't ALL sin destructive)and for being bold, being straight-forward AND showing the love that Christ has for all of us who fall so short of His standards. As a youth minister in the "deep south" where "everyone" goes to church (not really, but you understand what I'm saying), I see the world's view of acceptance and tolerance creeping even into the minds of my most active student leaders (I credit the media for preaching it's message so strategically and am embarrassed that the church sometimes isn't preaching it's powerful message of the Redeemer, Christ). Thank you for sharing truth. May we all follow Christ's example in our own lives and how we deal with others.

   corey rosakmp         2/25/2011 7:24:41 AM

thanks for all your great work. This is an issue we need to be educated about. You continue to give great resources. another great passage is Romans 1 and how God gave people over to their sinful desires. that covers all sin. Another resource I would like to point you to would be the ministry of sy Rogers. Are you familiar with him? he is a man that was totally captured in a homosexual lifestyle to the point that he was on the verge of a sex change. God got a hold of him and totally redeemed his life. He is a powerful speaker in terms of healing and dealing with sexual sins. Look into him if you have not already. Great stuff from The SOURCE. Thanks for the approach to confront this with love and respect-but to confront it. Corey Roskamp