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Main point: To give students an opportunity to share their feelings about sex and consider God's plan for sex. Supplies 1. Youth Challenge or game props Students arrive:
Bring it together: (about 15 minutes after start time) "Hey, glad to see you all here. Welcome to INSERT NAME OF YOUTH GROUP!" Introduce new people: Give students a Blow-pop, Skittles, or Snickers bar, etc. Mommy Game: " I need 3 girls who grab a partner (male or female) who want a chance to win this gift certificate!"
Mommy has to do the following:
First to do it all wins! Announcements: Upcoming activities, events Games: Choose games from the Game List Introduction to discussion starter: "The Mommy Game we played earlier was funny, but it touched on an issue that is hitting teens across America- teen pregnancy. Teens are getting pregnant younger and younger. Many teens have been convinced that the condom and other birth control methods are effective so they are having more sex. Teen pregnancies are up, diseases are up, and the abortion rate has skyrocketed. We want to give you a chance to share your feelings or ask questions this week." Agree/Disagree: Designate one side of the room as the "agree side," and the other side as the "disagree side." Have everyone walk to the correct side of the room, showing whether they agree or disagree, in response to the following statements: NOTE - you might want to write down the score of Agree's/Disagree's for reference A woman should... A D - always wear dresses. A D - cry when Mufassah dies in the Lion King. A D - get revenge when wronged. A D - gossip about her experiences with men. A D - wait for men to open the door. A D - have sex whenever it is offered to her and she wants it. A D - have sex after a certain time period in a relationship. A D - finish having sex with a guy even if she changes her mind and doesn't want to, half way through. A D - feel obligated to have sex with a man if he buys her expensive things and tells her he loves her. A D - have sex with someone she loves. A D - wait to have sex until she is married. A real man... A D - likes sports. A D - doesn't cry. A D - gets revenge when wronged. A D - brags about his experiences with women. A D - opens doors for women. A D - has sex whenever it is offered to him and he wants it. A D - should expect sex after a certain time period in a relationship. A D - should finish having sex with a girl even if the girl changes her mind and doesn't want to half way through. A D - should always stop when a woman says no. A D - has sex with someone he loves. A D - waits to have sex until he is married. NOTE - When going through the agree/disagree statements, don't be afraid to ask "Why?" on a few of the statements Discussion questions: The following questions can be facilitated in a large group. You'll want to use your own discretion, considering the size and maturity of the group. If your group is huge, you might want to divide by classes (9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th) If your group is immature (7th and 8th) you might want to divide by class and gender. Small groups are also an option. 1. What ways do girls manipulate guys? 2. What ways do guys manipulate girls? 3. What do girls really want? Do they want sex? 4. What do guys want in a relationship? Do they expect the same or more from their girlfriend/wife? 5. Movies today, people today, condom companies today say that sex is a leisure activity that you should enjoy. For those that believe in sex before marriage- are there any consequences? (Possible answers)
6. Come up with an "easy to understand" translation of the following verses (not a word for word translation- a quick wrap up sentence summarizing each group of verses): I Cor. 6:18-20 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not you own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." I Thes. 4:3-8 "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality: that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit."7. The Bible is clear that premarital sex is wrong. Is that hard to hear? Why or why not? 8. Does what girls wear affect guys? What should we do about it? 9. Sometimes, even if people make the decision to wait for sex until marriage, they still fail. Very often they will say, "it was just too difficult!" "It was like trying to put out a raging fire!" What situations should we avoid that might get ourselves into this "point of no return?" (e.g. being alone in a house with a guy, receiving a back rub) 10. Where is your line of how far you'll go? How can you keep to that? Wrap up: Sex is a great thing— the way God intended it. Saying that sex is great "God's way," angers many people who think that we should be free to have sex the way we want, not just "God's way." They say, "If we are in love with someone, what better way to express it than to ‘make love?' Why does there have to be rules? Is God so stingy and mean that he would deprive us of this? Why does there have to be rules? Rules are no fun!" I drive a Nissan Quest mini-van . . . not exactly a glamorous ride! I mean, what is a mini-van good for anyway? It's good for this: loading up your 2.6 kids and your dog, backing out of your garage, closing your automatic garage-door opener as you pass your white picket fence and scoot down the road toward the grocery store. As you exit the grocery store you load your groceries into the rear storage area of the vehicle, load your children back into the van, checking that all safety restraints have been firmly fastened, and you drive safely back home where you open your automatic garage and pull in smoothly, stop, unload groceries, kids and your dog, close the garage door and proceed back into your house to resume your life. That's what a mini-van is for. If I were to drive my mini-van down the street, and as I looked off to the right, I notice down a curb, and on the other side of the curb a steep embankment five feet to the outside of the road's shoulder, descending down a rocky path to a muddy field below which attracts four wheel drive vehicles from all over. Let's say I decided, "Hey- I want to go four wheeling!" So I yank the steering wheel to the right, swerving off the road, hitting the curb and dropping down the rocky path toward the bottom. As the car bounces down the hill, raising dust and debris the whole way, my front fender hits some rocks and falls off, getting dragged underneath the car. The mirror hits a branch and hangs loosely, and the car starts to slide sideways, finally flipping the rest of the way down the hill. As the car lands on it's side, I crawl out of the broken windshield and look at my car. It's crumpled up like a raison. It's bumper is gone, both mirrors are broken off, only one window remains and the drive shaft has fallen off. People who were following me up on the road and saw me swerve off the road would stop, look down the embankment past the settling dust at the crumpled mini van at the bottom of the hill. Then they would yell, "What did you swerve off the road for?" I would yell back up to them, "Because I wanted to go four wheeling in my mini-van!" They would yell back to me, "You are an idiot!" I would yell back, "What- you are saying there are rules to what I can and can't do with my mini-van? Can't I drive off a cliff if I want to? Why does there have to be rules to what I can do?" God has given us a wonderful gift to enjoy- the gift of sex. He gave it to us as an awesome thing that we can share in a marriage. It's fun. It feels great. It makes us feel closer to the one we love. But when we exploit this gift- when we use it in a way that it wasn't intended- then consequences result. If we think we can just do whatever we want- be prepared- our drive shaft might fall off! Everyone close your eyes for a few seconds. I want you to picture this world for a minute. You know what the world looks like. There's a lot of craziness around: murders, world hunger, threats of war, sicknesses, fights, break-ups, deaths . . . the list goes on. Well, I want you to picture this world- this same exact world . . . with one change. Only one change. Picture this world still with murders, world hunger, threats of war, sicknesses, fights, break-ups, deaths . . . but with one change. Picture that in this same world EVERYONE BELIEVES GOD'S PLAN FOR MARRIAGE. That's right. Everything is the exact same, except for some weird reason, everyone believed God in the one area of marriage. Picture this world right now. Everyone believes God's way. That is, find the one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and enjoy sex for the first time with them and for the rest of your life. Enjoy your relationship with them for the rest of your life. No cheating, just enjoying each other loyally to the end. Everything else is the same in this world, just this one thing is different. Picture how different this world would be with this one simple little change. First of all there is no divorce. No one would be divorced. Mom would stay with Dad, Dad with Mom. No Step-mom and Step-dad. No Dad cheating on Mom, no Mom cheating on Dad. No family splits, no fatherless children. This world would have no prostitution. Everyone would be committed to their spouse and there would be no need to go outside of marriage. This world would have no pornography. If people are happy with their spouse or saving themselves for their spouse then they don't need to look elsewhere. There would be no sexual abuse of any kind. No child abuse, no molestation of any kind . . . nothing! Everyone would enjoy sex with their spouse. There would be no rape in this world. Even though rape is an act of violence, it is also a sexual act. Rape wouldn't exist in this world where people listen to God's plan for marriage and sex. Abortions would be reduced by 90% in this world because over 90% of abortions are executed outside of marriage. What about all the sexually transmitted diseases? That's right! They'd be gone too. Aids wouldn't be spreading throughout the world. There would be no syphilis, no gonorrhea, no chlamydia- the #1 cause of sterility in women, no papaloma virus- the #1 cause of cervical cancer in women . . . NO SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES! The list goes on- everyone living as a family unit, loving and caring for each other. So if people in this world would just try God's plan for marriage, sex and relationships, instead of their own plan, we would see a world without divorce, without family splits, without fatherless homes, without marital infidelity, without prostitution, without pornography, without sexual abuse, without molestation, without rape, without a huge percentage of abortions, and without sexually transmitted diseases. None of these! DOES GOD'S WAY SOUND SO BAD? Is there a chance that God know's what he's doing- and we don't? See, a lot of us are trying things our own way and we end up hurt. Then we wonder why? The reason is simply this: God's way is the best way! THIS WRAP UP IS JUST A PIECE OF JONATHAN'S TALK ABOUT SEX THAT HE GIVES TO STUDENTS ACROSS THE COUNTRY. FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT JONATHAN SPEAKING TO YOUR GROUP ABOUT SEX, CHECK OUT: www.recommendingsex.com or JONATHAN'S SPEAKER PAGE: http://www.thesource4ym.com/speakers/jonathan.asp |
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