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Tuesday, February 19, 2002
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WHY YOUR STAFF or VOLUNTEERS SHOULD BE LIKE FLATULATION! More Than Chaperones
by Jonathan McKee
February 19, 2002
FLATULATION you ask?? How can a volunteer youth
worker be like flatulation?? It's the common cure for a common problem.? Hold on . .
. I'll explain.?
Ever wish your staff, volunteers, counselors or
chaperones would interact with students like they're suppose to?!!? Do they know
what they're supposed to do?? Have you ever told them??
You know the
phenomena I'm talking about.? Kid's show up at your weekly program - then staff
show up.? You pull it together-? the kids are in the middle and the staff have
made a horseshoe shape around the back of the room as if they're herding the
students toward the stage.? The students talk with one-another and the staff
talk with one another . . . and you've successfully segregated your youth
ministry by age.? What do you do about this?.
Allow me to quote from my book
coming out this Fall (wow- I'm quoting myself!? Is that legal?)? "Hopefully your
staff are trained to hang out with kids, not to "chaperone.' Mere "chaperones'
are no fun and most students don't want a relationship with one.? Your staff can
be so much more than that.? They should be purposefully participating in all
your events and hanging out with kids any chance they get.? They should laugh
with them, talk with them, cry with them.? Your midweek program- your game time
and your "hang out' time- are the perfect opportunity for your staff to break
the ice with students."
Many of us have trained our staff over and over
again, imploring them to mix with the kids, training them to talk with the kids
and "hang" with the kids.?? Yet they don't seem to get it.? How can we explain
to our staff what we expect of them.
Tell them to be like
Remember in elementary school when everyone sat at their desks
quietly working on their math and the kid in the corner of the classroom let out
one of those silent but deadly ones.? No sound was made, but one by one the
stench reached each kid in the classroom, starting in the corner, working it's
way to the utter most parts of the room.? If you watched a diagram of student's
reactions from up above you would notice the students react one by one, the
closest first, then finally the farthest away.
This process is called
dynamic equilibrium.? I can still remember my science teacher Mr. Jenson
explaining it to us.? He opened a jar of some stinky chemical in one corner of
the room and told us to raise our hands when we smelled it.? One by one you saw
dynamic equilibrium take place.? The molecules spread out until they could
spread no more.? They were spread completely and evenly throughout the
At the beginning of the school year I always took the time to train
my staff and volunteers.? At this training, I would let them know clearly that I
DID NOT need chaperones- I needed relational staff!? I always explained "dynamic
equilibrium" to them and instructed them to be like a molecule seeking dynamic
equilibrium.? I should look across the room at any time and see a sea of kids
with staff members spread throughout- not in bunches- but mixed throughout the
My staff never forget the "flatulation" analogy . . . crude, but
effective.? I still teach the "flatulation method" in trainings across the U.S.
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CAN A BIBLE STUDY BE TOO BIG? Deborah asks about her Pizza Bible study: "How do we keep their interest?"
By Jonathan McKee
February 19, 2002
Deborah popped on
our web site and clicked on the "ASK JONATHAN" button, asking a very good
?We have had
a weekly ministry with our senior high school students where we order pizza from
the local pizza shop and bring the pizzas over to the high school music room or
gym, inviting our students to join us for 30 minutes. We eat together and then
use about 15 minutes for discussion of faith-related topics. Last year we had
about 20-22 students participating. It was fairly easy to have a "large group"
discussion or break into smaller groups for questions.? This year the group has
mushroomed to 40 students every week (out of a high school of 120!). Obviously
it is much more challenging to gain and keep the attention of 40 students rather
than 20. Because they are on a lunch break and away from class, so there's
plenty of talking as they interact with their friends (understandable). It's not
easy to focus on a discussion topic or keep their interest.?? We think it is
valuable to just "hang out" with these students each week but we also hope to
offer some spiritual "nourishment." We've used short video clips, discussion
starters, small group types of things (they sit around tables of 6-8 people). Do
you have any suggestions for us as to how we can enhance this ministry?
Thanks,?? Pastor Deborah
? >>>ANSWER<<<? Deborah,? If
you've got thick crust double pepperoni's with extra cheese . . . I'M THERE!
When's the next one?? First, I love the format of your pizza and discussion. I'm
always thrilled when someone actually goes on campus. When it comes to
"outreach" or "reaching the unchurched," the local school is a great place to
start. And it sounds like you're doing it right.? AN IMPORTANT UNDERSTANDING
Whether planning a weekly study or a week long camp, we need to realize
something. I have yet to have a student come up to me, with a retreat permission
slip in hand and utter the words, "Jonathan, what will you be speaking on?" They
couldn't care less. Their question (and the determining factor concerning their
attendance) is always, "Who else is going?" . . .
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
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