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Jonathan: Now, I mentioned earlier that you could bring an ironworker to tears, you know, I do movie reviews and very often, I've talked about "bring your boxes of Kleenex to this one," when it comes to your films. Now, dealing with loss of a loved one is a common theme in your stories, and obviously, in reading your bio, my heart just broke for you. I saw that your mother died in an accident. Your father died in an accident; both kinda young. Your sister, Dana, 33 years old. You've definitely had your share of grief in your life. What wisdom can you share with us about getting through times like these?

Nicholas: Oh my goodness. Hard times are hard. That's it. You know, hard times are just hard, and I think that whenever you're faced with a challenge of any sort, whether it's tragic or just a challenge, you need to open your heart to other people, you know, your friends and your family. And after that, you take life one moment at a time. If there's one thing I learned about any of the tragedies it's that emotions are gonna come, whether it's anger or sadness.

Jonathan: Yeah.

Nicholas: You just let them come. There is no right and wrong, you know? I mean, if you want to be by yourself, that's OK.

Jonathan: Sure.

Nicholas: But if you want to be with a group of people, that's OK, too. There is no right and wrong. You know, if you go through loss, and it was someone that was very important to you, you can bet that the person that you loss would want you to be OK. So, you work through, and little by little, you know, life goes on. And it's funny because that's always the strangest part of it. If you lose somebody, well guess what happens? The mail arrives. The mail comes anyway. Same television shows are on. Whoops. You ran out of mayonnaise in the fridge. Stuff continues. Life continues to go on.

Jonathan: Yeah. Yeah.

Nicholas: You just focus in on the things you have to do and you move forward.

Jonathan: When I think of like, Diane Lane in Nights in Rodanthe when she found out that Richard Gere's character died, she was just in this kind of daze sitting there and her kids are trying to talk to her and she just kinda went into this depression. Do you think when you looked at that, did you identify? I mean obviously, you wrote that – and now I'm sitting there reading your bio and finding out what you went through...was that kind of one way people express it? I mean, did you experience it anything like that?

Nicholas: Umm. I didn't. My sister did. I didn't. My sister did when my mom died. There is no right and wrong. There is no right and wrong, so I think that in the end, that's something that Diane Lane and George Wolf, the director, decided would be the best way to show this. And I thought they did it well.