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From Sexting to Sex
Sexting and Sex in the Lives of Middle School Students
David R. Smith

We can’t necessarily explain it, but all of us notice it. 6th grade boys avoid girls like the plague…but when they become 7th graders, those same boys do all they can to capture the attention of girls.

Even if that means sending or requesting sexually provocative messages and photos...
JONATHAN'S BLOG: Dad's Version of "Rude"
Magic’s song “Rude” has been at the top of the charts for over a month now, currently at the No. 1 spot on Billboard, Spotify and iTunes. And now, a parody of the song is going viral on YouTube.

Magic’s version (the one you hear playing in Target, the Grocery Store and the gas station literally every hour of every day) is a song about a young man asking his girlfriend’s dad for his daughter’s hand in marriage. When he find’s out the answer is “no’, he decided he’s “gonna marry her anyway.”

Here’s a peek at some of the lyrics:

Saturday morning jumped out of bed
And put on my best suit
Got in my car and raced like a jet
All the way to you
Knocked on your door with heart in my hand
To ask you a question
'Cause I know that you're an old-fashioned man, yeah

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life?
Say yes, say yes 'cause I need to know
You say I'll never get your blessing 'til the day I die
Tough luck, my friend, but the answer is 'No'

Why you gotta be so rude?
Don't you know I'm human too?
Why you gotta be so rude?
I'm gonna marry her anyway

Fun song, very catchy… and when it first came out, it kicked off some pretty intriguing discussion in my car. Another perfect opportunity for parents to ask teenagers a simple question then just listen. (I’m always on the lookout for springboards that Get Your Teenager Talking)

When I heard this song, I simply asked my daughters, “Is he right?”

Boom… heated discussion. (Is this young man a brat or is this dad too ‘old fashioned’ and controlling? Do young men still need to ask for permission, or is that a dead ritual?) I'm always amazed at the effectiveness of well placed questions rather than lectures.

Apparently my car wasn't the only place this song was being discussed. This creative little ditty even provoked Time Magazine to ask etiquette expert Lizzie Post to chime in and answer, "is this really rude?" Post provides an interesting little history about this tradition.

And when a song gets this popular, it doesn’t take long for a fun parody to release, and this particular one has already garnered over 7 million YouTube views. Let’s just say this is “Dad’s version” of the song.

As usual, some interesting discussion as already bubbled in the comments section of this YouTube video. Like this comment, from a guy:

This is kind of perpetuating the medieval concept that a marriage should be decided among two men (the father and the husband-to-be) and that the daughter has no say in the matter. Why can't he trust her to marry who she wants? 

I know people say that it's a joke and shouldn't be taken seriously, but the fact that this video can be made and that people are supporting these ideas are showing that sexism is still around, even if it's not on a surface level.





Season 2, Episode 8—Nebraska
I really hate it when I think I’m right and I end up being wrong- although it happens more than I would like to admit. Sometimes it’s just little things that don’t matter all that much in the grand scheme

Some kids are too cool to do anything.  Part peacock, part pubescent, their pride gets the best of them at almost every turn... NOT these kids.

My kids will laugh at silly jokes.  They eat Happy Meals.  They watch kiddie shows and are unashamed.  They wear cat ears, 3D glasses with the lenses taken out, and give themselves names like Batman, Nightwing, and Doctor Wolverine (that name is mine, by the way). They are nerds…to the EXTREME.  So of course, we get along JUST FINE.  

Nowhere is this hardcore geekiness more evident than at our awesome new boys group, Guys and Fries Thursday. Every week I meet a small group of junior high 6th and 7th grade guys at McDonald’s to eat french fries, play card games, and talk about important life topics. We build mountains of french fries and use ketchup packets to make them into volcanoes (or we would if the kids actually ATE KETCHUP with their fries). Last week we had an epic battle of slapjack and used the parable of the unforgiving servant to discuss the topic of forgiveness. We also went off on rabbit trails, leading to one kid talking for ten minutes about the best way to get out of a cave. After all, these are junior high school boys, so focusing is always an issue.  Many have the attention span of a 6-week-old-puppy in a field filled with butterflies.  

And that’s on a good day.        

And yet, in spite of the silliness and beneath the crazy laughter, coupled with the random card games and the nerdy times, there are real Gospel truths being presented, and barriers, like walls, that are tumbling down.  

See, some of these kids you’d never spot worshiping in the youth room at your church on a Sunday morning.  But campus ministry is a different animal altogether:  With us, atheists mingle with Christians, agnostics with Mormons, Jews with Muslims.

And that’s Youth for Christ/Campus Life at its best. That’s what we can be: A haven for people who do not know the Gospel; a place where kids can go to just be themselves. We gather representatives from various tribes, tongues, and nations together in one room to learn stories, build relationships, and point kids to Jesus Christ.  

This is just the beginning of what we’re doing here at a Sacramento suburb middle school.  In less than a school year, we’ve launched a successful weekly Monday Campus Life club, a guys group, and continue to build contacts within the community, all while maintaining a breakfast club that regularly sees an average of 120 students every Friday (we’ve written about that before in this column).

How are you reaching the campus near you?

Movie Reviews and Quick Q's:
Snowpiercer (6/27/2014)

Posted on July 7/22/2014, 2014 at 12:32 PM
Music Discussions:

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Games & IceBreakers:
Ultimate Dodge Cricket

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Professor Layton and the Azran Legacy

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Outreach Resource of the Week RSS Feed
The Avengers

Your teenagers need to know that they cannot bow down to anyone or anything other than Jesus Christ, Himself. This resource from our MOVIE CLIP DISCUSSION page shows the danger of bowing our lives to anyone but Him.

The Movie Clip: Bow to Me 
The Avengers assembles Marvel’s most beloved gang of superheroes against a threat from another 

Spiritual Growth Resource of the Week RSS Feed
How We Respond

The only thing in life we can control is ourselves and our reactions. God wants us to be holy and loving; this resource from our SPIRITUAL GROWTH AGENDAS page teaches your students a few practical ways to live that way.


Discussion Starter: Attitude Improv 
Pull four leaders to the front of the room and bring them up on the stage. As soon as they come up front, have them reach into a hat and pull out one of four PRE-WRITTEN notes that say the following:

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